When I first discovered Pinterest, it happened to coincide with my insomnia-ridden second pregnancy. Shortly followed by my awake-at-all-hours-ready-to-party baby. I'll be honest, in my zombied state (either middle of the night or early riser's club editions), I racked up a LOT of pins over a LOT of hours.
This was during my new mom phase, when I had nothing else to think about than my darling toddler and her imminent sibling. I pinned away the nights, dreaming of someday when I would have the energy and wherewithal to make a layered rainbow cake or sew felt donuts for my girls to pretend to eat.
Pinterest gets a lot of flak these days, and I understand why. Perceived pressure for moms to create "pin-worthy" parties and Valentines is a legit criticism, though, I think this is a wise & loving response. Obviously, it can also be a time suck, like any other social media, with its endless rabbit holes and discoveries. And there is the critique that it fuels our materialism and dissatisfaction with what we have.
For me, it functioned as almost the opposite.
Partly, I was saved by circumstance. While one of my affinities on pinterest was for "home style"-type images, we had just moved into a small, furnished student townhouse in Vancouver, where A) we weren't supposed to even hang anything on the walls, much less DIY a new backsplash, B) most of our friends lived in the exact same housing, and C) we had no disposable income. I also basically stopped browse-shopping at this time, because apart from it being pointless, with no money to spend, doing it with a toddler and a baby was a huge hassle.
If I came across products I liked, or styles I might want to emulate (someday), or art I loved, I could just pin it and forget about it. Instead of browsing through stores, always looking for deals, or afraid I would miss out on something great, I discovered the internet!
I just started pinning things I liked, and knew that they would be there if or when I ever was able or interested in buying them. Instead of filling my head with wants, I found that it emptied it of them, placing them in one discreet little corner of my life, accessible only when I really wanted it, but otherwise not on my mind.
But, that's just me, and if it's an unhealthy place for you, stay away!
If you are pinning, check out my dignify hub. I've started two group boards that you can be a part of:
If you are interested in improving your spending towards businesses that are good, this is a place to collect those places & products. It doesn't have to be a "fair trade" or strict in any sense. Just businesses that care about more than solely profit and are bringing goodness into this world.
I'm always trying to brainstorm ideas for different gift-giving occasions, so that I don't end up giving "stuff". This is a go-to board for high-impact, thoughtful, or meaningful gift ideas for all occasions.
Join me in collecting the very best on these boards! I love to hear different ideas and know of other shops like mine. To join, I must follow you, then add you to the board so we can start pinning as a group; just comment below (or email me) with your Pinterest URL and I'll add you in.
Thanks for reading! See you on the boards!
The Enneagram is super popular right now as a typology of nine interconnected personality types. I am familiar with the Enneagram and while it hasn’t been a particularly impactful tool for me personally, I value the depth of the insight and the common language it provides.
Similarly, Gretchen Rubin’s Four Tendencies framework provides definition and a vernacular to what is already present in ourselves. For me, this one has resounded like a deafening gong in my ears & in my life!
Over the last year or so, I've made a conscious priority to read books written by — or written from the perspective of — people different than me. As a white, rich person (and I have a job, a bachelor's degree, a house, 2 cars, and 3 computers, so that sounds pretty rich to me; maybe not in the 1%, but high enough), I have a pretty limited perspective. Also, our culture is essentially designed for me to thrive, so it's easy to take that all for granted.
Books, both non-fiction and creative stories, have a way of landing you right in the viewpoint of an other, and I am so grateful for that gift; it's one of the best things about reading.
Conversations about money can be awkward, but having uncomfortable talks, at age appropriate times, will set up our children's essential, lifelong skill in handling money well. Allowance is a key tool to teaching these money management skills.
Money, along with politics and religion, is often considered impolite conversation to have outside of yourself & maybe (hopefully?) your spouse. How much do we spend on groceries, gas bill, or date nights? Is this car payment normal? We are often afraid, or at least reluctant, to compare any of these details… R. Paul Stevens said the proverbial fig leaf from the Garden of Eden has moved from our naked bodies to our bank accounts!
Add kids into these conversations, and there is an additional layer of hesitancy: kids can be notorious loud-mouths!