Dignify has grown over many years and stages, but much of it was built in the margin time of my life when my husband was working full time and I was caring full-time for a 2 & 3-year old.
Isaac Newton worked on the early foundations of calculus & gravity during his isolation “annus mirabilis” (amazing year).
Do you need to start a side business or become a math whiz if you have any downtime? No!
But, binge-watching wears out after a while... and there is absolutely a middle zone of creative, constructive ways to spend discretionary time, however much of that you may have. For some typically active, healthy people, they may have a lot of time! For someone with multiple jobs, or young kids, it may be very little. Illness or disability may also limit what is possible.
These suggestions may come from my place of privilege of health, wellness, time and ability... I acknowledge that!
But, there is also a lot of time capital out there. The amount of entertainment content that is released proves it! (Netflix spent $14 billion on content last year — somebody is watching it.)
This list of ideas seeks to enter that margin of time and to use it well.
The barrier to entry to watch tv or consume media is low. And the payoff is commensurate! Skills that are more challenging to acquire, with different gradations of learning, also provide higher outputs of happiness and satisfaction.
Some ideas of these kinds of skills:
- Playing a musical instrument
- Baking, breadmaking
- Knitting, sewing
In a similar vein, restoration & repair are skills that are undervalued today, but certainly needed! You can acquire long-term, highly useful skills that build in difficulty and satisfaction, while also restoring life into dead or underloved things!
- Car repair
- Furniture restoration
- Gardening / Yard design
- DIY home projects
In our family, we created a list of “self-care” ideas — especially to use as a resource when we are angry, frustrated, or upset. One idea that may seem counterintuitive is to pour yourself out to something or someone else, even if you feel a bit empty. It could be as simple as taking care of a plant or a pet, or asking someone if you can get them a glass of water or give them a hand with something.
On a bigger scale, with more time, it could be volunteering or doing something practically helpful for a person or group in your community. The current climate poses challenges for this (my neighbour, whose time is full to the brim with volunteer boards & commitments, is at a loss!).
But, there are still many areas that need help right now, and always! Maybe you can offer administrative service, your organizational skills, or use your network to source fundraising help for charities that need help!
Do you remember making mixtapes, mixed CDs, or playlists? Somehow, when I was a teenager & young adult, I had all the time to spend on these pursuits. My theory now is that most adults listen primarily to the music of their late teens/early twenties because WHO HAS TIME NOW TO CURATE A PLAYLIST?!
Spotify & other streaming services with their algorithms have addressed this need, but what other time in your life do you have to simply luxuriate in the time to assemble your favourite music or discover new artists? Music is an art to appreciate, it needn’t only be a background addition.
Similarly, you could look through a book of photography or paintings. Take a tour of a museum. There is so much art and beauty all around us, but we tend to cram it in amidst our other multi-tasking!
There are some really annoying tasks that I put off simply because I don’t “have the time”, but really because: I don’t want to. Examples: changing service providers to a cheaper or more ethically-aligned option; asking the bank for lower interest rates on a credit card or loan; closing unnecessary accounts; unsubscribing to things. This may be a great opportunity to sit on the hold line to close that account or get a better rate.
What do you think? Share your own ideas or experiences of time spent that felt happy, creative, constructive!
A friend recently asked on Facebook for “the most challenging and enlightening resource you have read/watched about the problem of racism in America”. This question received numerous responses within the day: half a dozen films, dozens of books, podcasts, courses, and other hubs of information resources (as well as the astute reply, “Conversation”, which is, of course, the most relational and human of “resources”).
I think that this experience was shared by most people in early June (as protests & concerns over racial injustice had reached a critical volume): so many resources, so much to learn.
But now, 2 months later… what have we done with the magnitude of worthy, fascinating, perspective-altering information & insights that have been brought to our attention?
And this it only in the area racial injustice. In other interests & concerns: How much do we know? How much have we learned & read & listened to already?
Approximately 25 years ago (in March 2020), we did a customer/reader survey. I asked what you like to read on the blog & one of the respondents suggested a post on "living generously". What a fabulous idea and perfect for this time in history!
[The title of this post implies some kind of authority or expertise — ha! Nope, no experts here... just some thoughts on generosity from a fellow human, trying to make my way!]
A few weeks ago, I bumped into another grade 1 parent at the park, an acquaintance I knew from school events. As we chatted about our strange time since mid-March (working from home; restless but resilient kids; he hadn’t stepped foot in a store for 3 months...), he made an interesting remark:
We’ve looked at our bank account at the end of each month and thought, “what were we spending all that money on?!”