Before we get started… In case you are wondering: Yes, I am aware that dignify, here, where you’re reading this, is an online store! And that I sell things here.
Indeed, I want to sell kantha quilts — lots of them! But, in my desire to create opportunities for dignity for women sewing blankets in Bangladesh, I still want to preserve the dignity of our customers, and of ourselves.
These are the kinds of headlines I often come across from groups & blog designed for online ("ecommerce") shop-owners like me:
Strategy, psychological triggers, tactics to influence... these are all the ways that many retailers view the seller-buyer relationship. When a business is publicly traded, their prime responsibility is to increase shareholder value, making the whole equation even more functional & disembodied. But, we're all still humans, just trying to take care of life.
I don’t think there is any problem with serving customers with what they want (but maybe haven’t identified), providing the information they might be looking for (at the moment they are interested), or making choices to motivate someone who is on the fence. But, when an experience is designed to manipulate a customer with fear, or encourage a customer not to overthink the purchase… well, I think we can all do better than that.
As a shopper, you are up against a lot of motivated sellers, using their best strategy to influence you to buy, and buy fast. So, let’s bring our best, discerning minds to the equation, too. In the end, we should have products & purchases that we will be happy with over the long run, instead of impulse purchases that we regret.
Keep in mind these key tactics that are frequently used to motivate browsers into buyers:
The fear of missing out can have a powerful effect on shoppers. This is true, but it's also a phrase I cut directly from a blog post, encouraging retailers to use this truth to "make more people buy and less people “go home and think about it”."
Examples of scarcity & urgency tactics are:
One of the above articles notes: “The principle of reciprocity in sales psychology means that when someone gives us something, we feel compelled to give something back in return.”
This is like the subtle obligation you might feel after trying a free sample to then buy the item you were given.
In online sales, this might look like:
Examples of social proof:
I think that the true recommendation of a friend is actually one of the best reasons to buy an item. Just watch out for the difference between an actual product endorsement from a trusted source vs. a "saw this and thought of you" item.
I was burned with one of my worst-ever, impulse purchases, because it was forwarded to me from a friend. She wasn't telling me to buy it, but her suggestion was an implicit social proof that lowered my barriers to buy... even though she had no idea what a junky product it turned out to be.
I saw some Facebook ads telling me that Sam Smith was playing my city in September. Then I saw a reminder every time I listened to music on Google Play. Then, more ads! By the time this week (the week of the concert) rolled around, I wanted to go and was ready with cash in hand!
As a customer, just remember that if you don't want to be bombarded with reminders of a particular brand, there are options: unsubscribe from an email list; tell FB not to show you ads from that seller; clear the cookies from your browser, etc.
Plus, there are good old fashioned tools like budgets & lists that can ensure that you are buying based on planning, financial prudence, and actual want, rather than buying from being worn down by good ads.
You're smart, you aren't wasteful, and you can be totally discerning with how (and to whom) you spend your money.
Keep your eyes open and make decisions based on what you think is important, not based on the cleverly planned sales flow, designed to discourage you from "going home to think about it".
Take your time, be wise, don't worry about scarcity or perceived obligation.
The ones who deserve your money will get it, and the ones who don't can work harder (/smarter/better).
Six years ago, my family unknowingly set ourselves on a journey toward starting a children’s clothing company.
It didn’t start with a business plan, it started with a single choice — a simple “no”.
On April 25th, 2013, the four of us — me, my husband, & our two daughters — were sitting together at the table, eating lunch. The news was on, which, in hindsight, was really unusual; we are not typically TV watchers, especially during a mealtime. I don't remember why the TV was on, but I do remember getting out of my chair, picking up my daughter, and walking closer to the television.
I received a big shipment of blankets a few weeks ago, and on Instagram I posted this photo of me with the pallet of 16 large boxes towering over me.
Subsequently, I received several DM questions about when the new blankets would be added to the site. The answer is not now but also always — both are true!
This seemed like a good time to give you all a tour into our dignify back room to explain more of how we make this colorful business work.
I've joked for many years that I think of parenting as "a slow death to self".
The death to self part (or maybe, less dramatically, a minimizing of self) is obvious : as a parent, your own "needs" & desires shuffle down a little lower on the list of importance when you have a dependent. (With the notable exception of that oxygen mask on an airplane, where I'm told you're supposed to put yours on first!).
The "slow" part is maybe a bit more arguable... When a child arrives in a parent's life, things change pretty quickly! But, in my experience, it has overall been a slow process of giving myself up for others, with acute times of change that are particularly noticeable.