I've taken a Halloween approach (thus far) that is almost entirely of a free-for-all. As in: Go trick-or-treating, have fun, eat candy, keep it in your room, go wild... and usually by two weeks in, it's all gone, forgotten, or lost its lustre. This week, though, our three kids brought over 1200 candies & chips back into our house (!!!). It was, to understate things... a bit much.
When you find yourself with an abundance of junk food, the idea of throwing it away feels inconceivable (at least for me). Maybe it is that candy is non-perishable, and there is a sense that throwing something edible in the garbage is abhorrently wasteful?
But, the truth is: we waste things all the time! Pumpkins, grown like any other edible crop, are mostly thrown away after October 31, uneaten. I lose track of produce sometimes and a mouldy eggplant or slimy half-full bag of spinach goes right into the bin (or compost).
With all due respect to the corn (syrup) farmers & candy manufacturers, why do I feel more uncomfortable throwing away a bowl full of mini Mars bars than I do when I rinse a tub of best-intentioned yogurt down the drain?
It reminds me of an anecdote that Chris Guillebeau recounts of locking his keys in his car right before an event at which he was speaking. The locksmith spent less than 5 minutes unlocking the car, and charged him $75. Chris found himself thinking that his instinct was to want the process to take longer, to feel like the cost was a better value! Though, of course, it was actually to his advantage — more valuable — that the locksmith was speedy in his work.
I find myself thinking that I don't want the candy to "go to waste"... I want a good use for it. But isn't it actually more unhelpful to my goals (for myself & my family) of physical health, steady emotions,and restful sleep, if I make sure it is eaten & enjoyed, just so it doesn't "go to waste"?
This year, I unabashedly threw away the gross-looking & weird candies. Then, I paid cash money to my kids to trade me 100 pieces each of their loot. It's now sitting in a bag in my office, and I feel conflicted about what to do next.
No waste is good, and the best scenario would be if I wasn't in this place of excess in the first place! But BE THAT AS IT MAY, here I am and there it is.
Yes, I can give it to different places and charities etc. but is more candy the answer for them, anyway? I feel like candy is everywhere and barely a treat anymore. Is anyone suffering by my wastefulness, or is it actually all gain?
Update: A local friend told me that there is an organization that collects candy for kids that are stuck in the hospital for their birthdays and other holidays (as part of a treat bag). I'm still not convinced that more candy is the answer, but I think that of anyone, I can trust pediatric healthcare professionals to make good choices about candy distribution! For now, this seems like a good option. 👋bag of 300 "fun" bars!
A friend recently asked on Facebook for “the most challenging and enlightening resource you have read/watched about the problem of racism in America”. This question received numerous responses within the day: half a dozen films, dozens of books, podcasts, courses, and other hubs of information resources (as well as the astute reply, “Conversation”, which is, of course, the most relational and human of “resources”).
I think that this experience was shared by most people in early June (as protests & concerns over racial injustice had reached a critical volume): so many resources, so much to learn.
But now, 2 months later… what have we done with the magnitude of worthy, fascinating, perspective-altering information & insights that have been brought to our attention?
And this it only in the area racial injustice. In other interests & concerns: How much do we know? How much have we learned & read & listened to already?
Approximately 25 years ago (in March 2020), we did a customer/reader survey. I asked what you like to read on the blog & one of the respondents suggested a post on "living generously". What a fabulous idea and perfect for this time in history!
[The title of this post implies some kind of authority or expertise — ha! Nope, no experts here... just some thoughts on generosity from a fellow human, trying to make my way!]
A few weeks ago, I bumped into another grade 1 parent at the park, an acquaintance I knew from school events. As we chatted about our strange time since mid-March (working from home; restless but resilient kids; he hadn’t stepped foot in a store for 3 months...), he made an interesting remark:
We’ve looked at our bank account at the end of each month and thought, “what were we spending all that money on?!”