I've taken a Halloween approach (thus far) that is almost entirely of a free-for-all. As in: Go trick-or-treating, have fun, eat candy, keep it in your room, go wild... and usually by two weeks in, it's all gone, forgotten, or lost its lustre. This week, though, our three kids brought over 1200 candies & chips back into our house (!!!). It was, to understate things... a bit much.
When you find yourself with an abundance of junk food, the idea of throwing it away feels inconceivable (at least for me). Maybe it is that candy is non-perishable, and there is a sense that throwing something edible in the garbage is abhorrently wasteful?
But, the truth is: we waste things all the time! Pumpkins, grown like any other edible crop, are mostly thrown away after October 31, uneaten. I lose track of produce sometimes and a mouldy eggplant or slimy half-full bag of spinach goes right into the bin (or compost).
With all due respect to the corn (syrup) farmers & candy manufacturers, why do I feel more uncomfortable throwing away a bowl full of mini Mars bars than I do when I rinse a tub of best-intentioned yogurt down the drain?
It reminds me of an anecdote that Chris Guillebeau recounts of locking his keys in his car right before an event at which he was speaking. The locksmith spent less than 5 minutes unlocking the car, and charged him $75. Chris found himself thinking that his instinct was to want the process to take longer, to feel like the cost was a better value! Though, of course, it was actually to his advantage — more valuable — that the locksmith was speedy in his work.
I find myself thinking that I don't want the candy to "go to waste"... I want a good use for it. But isn't it actually more unhelpful to my goals (for myself & my family) of physical health, steady emotions,and restful sleep, if I make sure it is eaten & enjoyed, just so it doesn't "go to waste"?
This year, I unabashedly threw away the gross-looking & weird candies. Then, I paid cash money to my kids to trade me 100 pieces each of their loot. It's now sitting in a bag in my office, and I feel conflicted about what to do next.
No waste is good, and the best scenario would be if I wasn't in this place of excess in the first place! But BE THAT AS IT MAY, here I am and there it is.
Yes, I can give it to different places and charities etc. but is more candy the answer for them, anyway? I feel like candy is everywhere and barely a treat anymore. Is anyone suffering by my wastefulness, or is it actually all gain?
Update: A local friend told me that there is an organization that collects candy for kids that are stuck in the hospital for their birthdays and other holidays (as part of a treat bag). I'm still not convinced that more candy is the answer, but I think that of anyone, I can trust pediatric healthcare professionals to make good choices about candy distribution! For now, this seems like a good option. 👋bag of 300 "fun" bars!
This week, I posted on my personal Facebook page about Amazon's Prime Day, with some stats that bothered me.
A thoughtful friend commented with honesty,
"Could you share some more of your insights about Amazon. I don’t disagree that their model is terrible but I also haven’t been convinced enough to forgo the crazy convenience of it.
Help convince me!"
Here is the response I posted.
Colleen sent in this message:
Hi, love the items and have purchased several.
Question: last week I had put a classic throw in my cart and then shopped for another and placed in my cart as well and when I went to complete the purchase, they were marked as sold and unavailable.
How does this work? Was extremely disappointed!
I completely understand — what a disappointment! Let's talk more about this...
(Photo courtesy of Friends of Basha)
Reflections from my experience visiting a Brothel in Bangladesh
As impossible as it is for me to believe now, earlier in 2020 I flew around the world. The primary objective was to visit Bangladesh and see, in person, the life-changing work in which dignify has had the privilege to participate over these past 8 years.