There is a great little piece of advice that swirls around parenting books & mom blogs (& all of those fun and exciting places…) The setup is like this:
Pretty good advice, I think. And it even (more or less) works!
I can’t tell you how many times I myself have done this, or have read friends’ status updates, strangers’ blog posts or comments, or heard said in passing something of the following nature:
Are we out of our minds? Or just our money?
I have said before that there are times & items that are totally reasonable to buy immediately. Maybe a good price on a leather bag you’ve been eyeing, or (we see a lot), a perfectly colored kantha blanket (!), or, what can be the ultimate in crazy/not-crazy quick purchases: a house.
But, while all of these things might be speedy from sight to purchase, that doesn’t make them impulse buys. Buying something spur-of-the-moment when you have been planning, waiting, and looking is completely different than picking up something you never knew you wanted until you saw it.
I think that there are 3 factors that primarily influence our impulse purchases (particularly at these large stores that sell a variety of things):
Could we apply the same parenting tip to all of our shopping? Go for what you plan for, and nothing else? It’s very common in grocery shopping: make a list, stick to the list. Stores with ALL THE THINGS make it much more challenging, but I still think it is possible.
Does all of this shopping talk intrigue you? You might like our Shop Good guide to No More Buyer's Remorse.
A friend recently asked on Facebook for “the most challenging and enlightening resource you have read/watched about the problem of racism in America”. This question received numerous responses within the day: half a dozen films, dozens of books, podcasts, courses, and other hubs of information resources (as well as the astute reply, “Conversation”, which is, of course, the most relational and human of “resources”).
I think that this experience was shared by most people in early June (as protests & concerns over racial injustice had reached a critical volume): so many resources, so much to learn.
But now, 2 months later… what have we done with the magnitude of worthy, fascinating, perspective-altering information & insights that have been brought to our attention?
And this it only in the area racial injustice. In other interests & concerns: How much do we know? How much have we learned & read & listened to already?
Approximately 25 years ago (in March 2020), we did a customer/reader survey. I asked what you like to read on the blog & one of the respondents suggested a post on "living generously". What a fabulous idea and perfect for this time in history!
[The title of this post implies some kind of authority or expertise — ha! Nope, no experts here... just some thoughts on generosity from a fellow human, trying to make my way!]
A few weeks ago, I bumped into another grade 1 parent at the park, an acquaintance I knew from school events. As we chatted about our strange time since mid-March (working from home; restless but resilient kids; he hadn’t stepped foot in a store for 3 months...), he made an interesting remark:
We’ve looked at our bank account at the end of each month and thought, “what were we spending all that money on?!”