There is a great little piece of advice that swirls around parenting books & mom blogs (& all of those fun and exciting places…) The setup is like this:
Pretty good advice, I think. And it even (more or less) works!
I can’t tell you how many times I myself have done this, or have read friends’ status updates, strangers’ blog posts or comments, or heard said in passing something of the following nature:
Are we out of our minds? Or just our money?
I have said before that there are times & items that are totally reasonable to buy immediately. Maybe a good price on a leather bag you’ve been eyeing, or (we see a lot), a perfectly colored kantha blanket (!), or, what can be the ultimate in crazy/not-crazy quick purchases: a house.
But, while all of these things might be speedy from sight to purchase, that doesn’t make them impulse buys. Buying something spur-of-the-moment when you have been planning, waiting, and looking is completely different than picking up something you never knew you wanted until you saw it.
I think that there are 3 factors that primarily influence our impulse purchases (particularly at these large stores that sell a variety of things):
Could we apply the same parenting tip to all of our shopping? Go for what you plan for, and nothing else? It’s very common in grocery shopping: make a list, stick to the list. Stores with ALL THE THINGS make it much more challenging, but I still think it is possible.
Does all of this shopping talk intrigue you? You might like our Shop Good guide to No More Buyer's Remorse.
This week, I posted on my personal Facebook page about Amazon's Prime Day, with some stats that bothered me.
A thoughtful friend commented with honesty,
"Could you share some more of your insights about Amazon. I don’t disagree that their model is terrible but I also haven’t been convinced enough to forgo the crazy convenience of it.
Help convince me!"
Here is the response I posted.
Colleen sent in this message:
Hi, love the items and have purchased several.
Question: last week I had put a classic throw in my cart and then shopped for another and placed in my cart as well and when I went to complete the purchase, they were marked as sold and unavailable.
How does this work? Was extremely disappointed!
I completely understand — what a disappointment! Let's talk more about this...
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