What is Important to Me in The Time That I Have?

February 29, 2020 2 min read

Today is our bonus day. The extra 24 hours we get every 4 years. 

But, like those months where you get extra paycheque, that bonus can be set aside for something intentional, or simply absorbed into the warp and weft of everyday life. 

Of course, I know that February 29th is not a day that exists outside of the calendar, outside of commitments or responsibilities. But, as an extra gift of time within the whole year, it is a reflective moment for me to ask myself, what is important to me in the time that I have?

 

This sentiment came up significantly in Atul Gawande's book, Being Mortal — a piece of work I would consider essential human reading. In that context, Gawande writes about the elephant in the medical room: death. The last third of the book really explores how to have conversations to articulate the important things to us, so that in the face of death, we have a paradigm through which to understand & make decisions.

 


But, isn't this a helpful question to ask at any time of our life?

What is important to me in the time that I have?

I certainly asked this of myself when a relative of my husband's died young and unexpectedly last year. 

How shall I spent my time, my efforts, my money, my mental capacity? However long that time is (the time that I have), what is most important to me? And, key: how do I make daily decisions to reflect those decisions?

 

What do I say no to? There is a barrage of input coming at us from all sides: information to absorb, great things to participate in, billions (literally) of people in the world to have relationships with... but each carries its own time, energy, etc. Where do I say no that will align with what is important to me?

 

What do I say yes to? Saying no to some things opens me up to say a hearty yes to others! What do I want to say YES to that will bring the best to me & to the world, an outpouring of what I have to give in service & love to others?

 

These are the questions! And what better time to ask them than when we have a whole extra day to consider our answers :)


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