My friend Aleisha confessed to me that she had been attending an unusual "club"… for decluttering! There has been an interest around here in minimalism, capsule wardrobes, & the like, so I asked Aleisha to share her experience with us.
What in the world!? How did you end up in a decluttering club? Is that a thing?
Last fall, my friend Ronda invited me to join her "decluttering group." She's an insightful, interesting woman, and I knew that whatever she was into would be legit — thought out, and definitely not a waste of time. Quite honestly, she had me at the thought of coming over for coffee and treats on aFriday morning!
It turned out to be an amazing, re-energizing experience that quite frankly was one of the most valuable things I did all year — and this is coming from a mom of 3 young kids... time doesn't grow on trees in this stage of life.
What is decluttering?
As you may or may not know, decluttering is a "bit" of a movement. (insert sarcasm)
Just peruse the magazine section at the grocery store to see "49 Tips for Decluttering Your Home," or " 365 Decluttering: Daily 15-Minute Missions," or my favourite, "60 Things to Toss Out in the Next 60 Days." It's kind of everywhere.
Overall, "decluttering" is about clearing out the clutter and having less stuff.
For me personally, it wasn't about being organized or tidy (a worthwhile pursuit), or spending less money on stuff (also noble), but really about exploring this philosophy of having "enough." [ed. note: we are interested in that, too!]
What resources did you use?
The group followed a weekly video series by Joshua Becker, called "Uncluttered". The series is based on his book The More of Less: Finding the Life You Want Under Everything You Own, so I suppose you could get a lot of the same info out of the book or even his blog. But, the course had videos that we watched together, and a bunch of extra resources to help practically apply the theory of it all.
One of his main philosophies is that we, as a society, no longer pursue having "enough", but rather, have been mistakenly led to pursue "excess." When you pursue excess, you will never be able to be satisfied, because our new definition of enough is unachievable.
The reality, he states, is:
"...we already have enough. Once we train ourselves to recognize this truth, we are freed from the pursuit of more, we are liberated from the bondage of discontent, and we begin to experience true freedom in our lives.
Best of all, once we realize we already own enough, we are freed to pursue more worthy endeavors than the accumulation of excess."
Is this like a “book club” where it’s really about drinking wine? Did anyone successfully declutter?
Don't get me wrong — it wasn't perfect! There was a week where we all planned to bring our "excess" to Ronda's, as she had planned for a Goodwill pick-up. It may have slightly turned into yardsale on her front lawn... like, "Oooh, what is that I see in your pile there?!" 😂 Most of us did not go home empty-handed that day!
But, of course, nobody is perfect, and that wasn't the goal. Overall, yes, there was a lot of successful decluttering and a lightening of the load, so to speak, in all of our homes.
What are the outcomes you have experienced in your own life?
Well, Josh Becker & the awesome group of gals in the group helped me to see that our 950 sq. foot home didn't need literally half of my wardrobe, two-thirds of our games and toys, some over-sized furniture, unused kitchenware, and multiple books I'll honestly never read again (or even read once, for that matter).
I live in a (culturally) small home for my family of 5, so there is a natural amount of paring down that is just a necessity of a small space. But, honestly, I was shocked at how much I had that I didn't use or didn't need.
It's not like decluttering has solved all my life problems! But overall, I'm starting to see that I have enough. And a tidier house isn't exactly a downside. :)
Thanks for sharing, Aleisha! Continue the conversation & ask Aleisha anything about her experience in our Facebook group. And: Happy decluttering!
(Photo courtesy of Friends of Basha)
Reflections from my experience visiting a Brothel in Bangladesh
As impossible as it is for me to believe now, earlier in 2020 I flew around the world. The primary objective was to visit Bangladesh and see, in person, the life-changing work in which dignify has had the privilege to participate over these past 8 years.
A friend recently asked on Facebook for “the most challenging and enlightening resource you have read/watched about the problem of racism in America”. This question received numerous responses within the day: half a dozen films, dozens of books, podcasts, courses, and other hubs of information resources (as well as the astute reply, “Conversation”, which is, of course, the most relational and human of “resources”).
I think that this experience was shared by most people in early June (as protests & concerns over racial injustice had reached a critical volume): so many resources, so much to learn.
But now, 2 months later… what have we done with the magnitude of worthy, fascinating, perspective-altering information & insights that have been brought to our attention?
And this it only in the area racial injustice. In other interests & concerns: How much do we know? How much have we learned & read & listened to already?
Approximately 25 years ago (in March 2020), we did a customer/reader survey. I asked what you like to read on the blog & one of the respondents suggested a post on "living generously". What a fabulous idea and perfect for this time in history!
[The title of this post implies some kind of authority or expertise — ha! Nope, no experts here... just some thoughts on generosity from a fellow human, trying to make my way!]