You may not be a guest at the royal wedding this weekend (in spite of the fascinator you have all ready to go!)... But, we all have those friends.
You know, those friends who are getting married and what on EARTH could they possibly need or want as a wedding gift? The registry (if there is one) is dull, or they've asked for cash (a move that seems to get less tacky in the age of dead etiquette and sky-high housing prices). Officially, Harry and Meghan asked for charitable donations in lieu of wedding gifts, so yes, if that is the case with your own newlyweds, then by all means, donate to the charity of their choice (or Friends of Basha)!
However, I, for one, often still feel compelled to give something tangible as a present to a new couple. For me, it's a way to share the wealth, to be generous, to give as we have been given to. Also, a way to express my care for them in a way that is memorable and appreciated.
A one-of-a-kind, hand-stitched kantha quilt from dignify is THE BEST WEDDING GIFT. We've sold hundreds and hundreds of them as wedding gifts, so at this point, I will just shout it boldly from the rooftop (or, rather, out into the internet abyss) with no shame , because it is true. A kantha throw is a gift that is unique, beautiful, long-lasting, useful, and meaningful.
For a couple who are interested in social concerns, it means so much more that the blanket wasn't mass manufactured in a factory and has an amazing story behind it. But for a couple who are not particularly intentional about those things, a kantha throw is nonetheless a fabulous gift, just on the merit of the kantha itself! (What is kantha, anyway?)
"My friend LOVED - I'm using the word "love" to describe her reaction - the blanket I gave her for her wedding shower. It filled me with immense amounts of joy to see her delight and the delight of the other women there from this blanket.
She loved the softness of it, and the softness/texture it would bring to their home, and the story behind it. She loved the artisan's name on it, and she loved that it meant something. And I loved being able to give something of quality that had meaning. It honestly felt like such a privilege."
"I have purchased 2 Kantha Throws as wedding gifts and they have been incredible. The recipients are thrilled with the quality and beauty of the throws, and also touched that their wedding gift represents a miracle in the lives of many women."
"My friend said it was their favorite gift they received, hands down!"
Join hundreds of others who have given the "Best. Gift. Ever." as a wedding present (though, if you're thinking of sending one to Windsor Castle, maybe just hang on to that one for yourself 😉):
(Photo courtesy of Friends of Basha)
Reflections from my experience visiting a Brothel in Bangladesh
As impossible as it is for me to believe now, earlier in 2020 I flew around the world. The primary objective was to visit Bangladesh and see, in person, the life-changing work in which dignify has had the privilege to participate over these past 8 years.
A friend recently asked on Facebook for “the most challenging and enlightening resource you have read/watched about the problem of racism in America”. This question received numerous responses within the day: half a dozen films, dozens of books, podcasts, courses, and other hubs of information resources (as well as the astute reply, “Conversation”, which is, of course, the most relational and human of “resources”).
I think that this experience was shared by most people in early June (as protests & concerns over racial injustice had reached a critical volume): so many resources, so much to learn.
But now, 2 months later… what have we done with the magnitude of worthy, fascinating, perspective-altering information & insights that have been brought to our attention?
And this it only in the area racial injustice. In other interests & concerns: How much do we know? How much have we learned & read & listened to already?
Approximately 25 years ago (in March 2020), we did a customer/reader survey. I asked what you like to read on the blog & one of the respondents suggested a post on "living generously". What a fabulous idea and perfect for this time in history!
[The title of this post implies some kind of authority or expertise — ha! Nope, no experts here... just some thoughts on generosity from a fellow human, trying to make my way!]